Okay, I know it's a hard and thankless job being the mod/maintainer/whatever for a large Internet group. I know you can't please everybody.

However.

If your moderation style is hands-off, say so. Don't offer excuses for why you don't crack down when members go all Lord Of the Flies on each other. Just admit that you have no interest in doing so.

Also, if you have made it clear that you're not interested in appointing another moderator to help out, it's pretty pointless to counter complaints with "do you want this job?" Maybe, if the question were not rhetorical, the answer would be "yes."

With all that said, I'm now comfortable with my own approach of "consider the source." It's pointless to get all bent out of shape because a few assholes who attack everyone are attacking someone. They're assholes. That's how assholes behave. I need to scrape it off my shoe and move on--not "grow a thicker skin" or whatever non-advice the mods offer to get around the fact they don't moderate (which is fine if that's their approach, just be honest about it), but just not stress about the fact that some people are a complete waste of skin. Fuck 'em.

Heh. You being to see why I spend a lot of time in my own company. I don't tend to be overtly mean, but it occurs to me that I am probably condescending!